Fighting fire with fire!

Last weekend was a busy event, with football, dance and meeting friends in the park on the Saturday and a more relaxed day on Sunday to prepare for Monday back at school. This was hindered somewhat by Boy Wonder and Boy Genius falling out on the Saturday and Boy Wonder totally losing control in the park, car park , throwing stones, putting himself to the floor and once in the car, kicking about with great force. This lasted throughout the evening until he finally fell to sleep quite late on. Sunday morning was spent negotiating a truce between the two boys and Boy Genius taking the lead in apologising by text, to which Boy Wonder reciprocated.

We arrived at school a little late on Monday due to high anxiety. Once there however, it was like nothing had happened and that I would just leave. This didn't fill me with confidence so I asked to speak with the Head. I was asked to wait but whilst doing so the behaviour lady that I spoke with last week arrived. We spoke about how things had been and I told her about Boy Wonder disclosing that he was shouted at when he was bad and told that he deserved to cry. I explained that these were Boy Wonder's words and that he could have misinterpreted things, however if this was what he was hearing it would have a negative impact. We both spoke to the Head and she agreed to look into what Boy Wonder had raised. We also spoke about physical intervention should it be required only to be told that if a child left school they would inform parents and police but not stop them physically. Oh dear! I was told to write a letter of consent to restrain Boy Wonder if required but this doesn't sit well as the training isn't there for the people working with him to do it safely. I guess this is a weighing up of risk decision,

Boy Wonder managed a full week at school albeit a very stressful, anxiety rising one. As the week wore on it became more and more difficult to settle him in, taking half an hour on Thursday before he would physically let go of me. Lots of tummy aches, chewing and shirt shredding alongside crying and general unsettled mood. Parents evening basically described  keeping him in school and settled was the aim, school work being practically non existent.

More meetings are planned for next week with the Consultant and the local authority to decide the MEP ( multi element plan.) Hopefully we will see some movement, however after more calls this week the statement has still not been released.